Wedding[Expert]Advice{Insight}

You may think this title to this entry is a little… CRAZY but- GET THE CRAZY OUT!

I see too many weddings and meet with too many brides to know all too well about the… “crazies.” What do I mean? Well, not one thing in particular so I will start with the following:

I have a bride right now is just excited about life- although she knows my name- she loves to call me her “J-LO Planner!!!” with all of the explaination points possible… it’s adoable and she gets me excited everytime I read an email. Her crazy situation is that she has been engaged for about 3 months and contracted me about 2 weeks ago- she does not have a venue but we are setting up appointments. With recommendations in hand from {yours truly} she was asked

to share them with her fiance’s brother’s girlfriend. Turns out- she got enaged shortly after… see where I am going? The other bride-to-be looked at her list and actually chose one of the venues on her list AND is getting married before her. My bride was upset (and rightly so) but get the crazy out and don’t share with other brides and we will find something that will best suit her needs.

Another bride I have- I feel for this bride and [I love her!]- she is in the middle of a rock and a hard place- the rock being her mom and the hard place being her future MIL. This poor girl in caught between religion and certain people wanting thier vision and not hers. I think all of her limbs are being pulled in every which way. The mother and I talk frequently and I understand where she is coming from- I do- and she even said that she will be relieved when this wedding is over. Eliminate the Crazy!!! Do what your daughter wants while honoring your families to a certain point. Let’s focus on the bride… it’s her day! This should be the day to look forward to- not the day after.

Have an unruley bridesmaid or a Maid of Honor who isn’t doing thier job- GET THE CRAZY OUT! If you haven’t picked your bridal party just yet- think about it carefully. You want full support of who will be standing beside you on your most special of days- think of who would be best suited to organize your festivities. If you already have chosen your bridal party and are having a hard time now- be blunt now… it may save your friendships.

Although we all can’t help who our families are or what they do- we can remind everyone of whose day it is and that we can all get along. My partner- Lisa- is the best at talking with bride’s through their issues and always has such great advice. Be sure that when you are planning your wedding to get the crazies out and ENJOY this limited time. Remembering that we are here to help and that there is a marriage (friendships and relationships) to be had AFTER the wedding 😉